Loving multiple wives equally is an extremely difficult task.

 In Islam, a man may marry up to four wives, but he must love them all equally.

So, what about Muhammad? It seems he had more than four wives, but even then, the hadith describes how he meticulously rotated his visits, ensuring there was no imbalance in the number of days he spent with each wife. However, there was a moment, when one of his wives, the most modest and reserved, perhaps out of consideration for his beloved Aisha, said to Muhammad:

"You can skip me from now on,"

This scene is described in the hadith.

This is quite ambiguous, isn't it?

How should Muhammad have responded to such a statement?

Should he have been happy or sad? What expression should he have made?

I've forgotten exactly how Muhammad reacted at that moment. I am currently sealed away from the scriptures, so for details, please consult the hadith yourself. However, my impression after reading it is:

"Loving multiple wives equally is an extremely difficult task."

Even God's apostles struggle with this, so how can an ordinary believer love multiple wives equally...?

It's absolutely unacceptable to neglect the older wife and spend all your time with the new one just because she's younger. A proper rotation must be established, and the days spent with each wife must be equally distributed. Of course, the love must also be equal.

It's difficult, isn't it? An extremely difficult task.

Therefore, whether one should have only one wife, or up to four, is left to God's will.

As love and mercy guide.

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